Don’t Dwell Too Long

Consider how much more you often suffer from your anger and grief, than from those very things for which you are angry and grieved.  ~ Marcus Antonius ~

Think about the last time you were really upset.  How did it make you feel?  How much energy did you use? Anger, frustration, and stress are normal emotions.  It's OK to get mad.  It's how you use your anger that will make the difference.  Do you use it as an excuse to be a victim?  Try instead to use is it as a motivator.  Think about why you are angry and what you can do about it - not how you can control the other person but, what you can do about yourself.  Great leaders will take the time to experience emotions and then they use it to learn.  Try not to dwell and you'll be stronger.


I experience my anger and I then move on.

No Excuses

One of the most important tasks of a manager is to eliminate his people's excuses for failure. ~ Robert Townsend ~

The difference between explanations and excuses is credibility.  How do you gain credibility?  By focusing on what you can do as opposed to what you can't do.  Never point fingers.  Loose the blame game.  Take ownership.  Always renegotiate.  Find a new path.  Ask questions.  Trust.  Try.  Coach. Turn frustrations into motivation.  Stay positive.  Don't complain.  Find humor. Make commitments instead of promises. Read the definition of credibility and live up to it, so you can teach others how to do the same.

1. Close your eyes
2. Breathe
3. Empty your mind
4. As thoughts come in, acknowledge and whisk them away
5. Focus on your breathing
6. Think about the affirmation:

I build credibility in myself and others.

Lose Worry; Be Inspirational

If you keep on saying things are going to be bad, you have a good chance of becoming a prophet. ~Isaac Bashevis Singer ~

Worry is something that will wear others down.  You will begin to make them take on this unnecessary emotion and they will become unmotivated to try to attain goals.  Emotions will have a huge impact on whether you achieve and if people don't think you will succeed then they won't even bother trying. When you are a leader, it is up to you to allay fears.  You are to be the calm person of reason.  You should be the visionary hopeful.  Not in a naive way, but instead, become more of someone who promotes things in a positive and possible way.  Practicing mindfulness will help you visualize achievement! People will want to follow you if they think you can attain success.  It is up to you to have the vision and it’s up to you to inspire others to drive for the end results.  It is then much easier to triumph.

1. Close your eyes
2. Breathe
3. Empty your mind
4. As thoughts come in, acknowledge and whisk them away
5. Focus on your breathing
6. Think about the affirmation:

“I inspire others to believe in success.” 

 

Use Play-Time as a Reward

“You can't build a reputation on what you are going to do.” ~ Henry Ford ~

Some days it's just hard to get going.  During the lazy days of summer you just want to be outside relaxing by a pool, lake or ocean.  Stop day dreaming!  Taking time for yourself is important so make sure you do it -  just don't overindulge!  Find a good rhythm for work and play.  Use play as your reward for getting things done that will build your dreams.  Lower your stress by just getting to it.  Great leaders will use play to balance out work but never in place of work.  Think about how great you will feel and how much more relaxed you will be if you just get a few things done before you spend time with family or friends. 

1. Close your eyes
2. Breathe
3. Empty your mind
4. As thoughts come in, acknowledge and whisk them away
5. Focus on your breathing
6. Think about the affirmation:

I will use play as a reward for smart work.

Leaders Don't Procrastinate

If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it.  ~ Olin Miller

Don’t you find it hard, some days, to just get motivated?  The more you think about what you need to do, the more mountainous it seems?  It is easy to put off those things that you don't feel like doing - however, they will start to fester and grow teeth.  Next thing you know, they're biting you in the rear!  You put it off thinking it will be easy and then every time you think about it...you groan.   Suddenly, your energy is drained.  You may think you are prioritizing but guess what?  You are not.  Prioritizing is putting important things first, procrastinating is putting off important things.  Leaders don't procrastinate. They get the important things done before they become problems.

1. Close your eyes
2. Breathe
3. Empty your mind
4. As thoughts come in, acknowledge and whisk them away
5. Focus on your breathing
6. Think about the affirmation:

I will get important things done first.

Choose Inspiration Over Manipulation

"Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.” ~ Dwight D. Eisenhower ~

Motivating other people is part manipulation and part inspiration.  Which one would you rather practice?  Inspiration?  No doubt.  However, have you assessed your behavior lately? How much of your time is spent as a motivator and how much is spent as an inspirer?  Be brutally honest.   No one is in your head right now.  If you answer manipulator more than 20% of your time, you will need to revisit your values.  Don’t make excuses about why you practice manipulation over inspiration.  The first reaction might be to justify your behavior.  Stop.  The second reaction could be guilt or regret.  Stop.  If you are a victim, you are not a leader.

To begin to flip manipulation into inspiration review your values.  Are your behaviors in alignment with your principles?  Next, what is your agenda?  Is it about you or them? Do you feel confident or fearful?  How well do you know the people you lead?  Have you taken the time to know what matters to them?

As a leader, you must operate within your values system.  If you are fearful, act courageous.  Get to know others sincerely and have faith in them.  Lead from the heart and you will be an inspiration.

1. Close your eyes
2. Breathe
3. Empty your mind
4. As thoughts come in, acknowledge and whisk them away
5. Focus on your breathing
6. Think about the affirmation:

“I choose to lead with inspiration.”

Never Tatoo Your Judgements on Others

We awaken in others the same attitude of mind we hold toward them. ~ Elbert Hubbard ~

You decide how you feel about others in the first few minutes of meeting them.  What kind of labels do you assign them?  Friend, foe, stupid, intelligent, kind, mean, selfish, open, shy, funny…You will tend to put the descriptors on them with a tattoo needle.  After time you will look for behaviors in them to defend your opinion about them for fear you may have been wrong. If you decided early on that you do not have high esteem for someone then everything they do will irk you.  You will make assumptions about their behavior that will validate the feelings that you hold toward them.  If you instantly decide they are an enemy, then they will always be an enemy.  

Leaders who are enlightened will open up the possibility that they might not be one-hundred percent accurate in their assessment of someone.  Instead of sizing someone up immediately, they will take the time to get to know them.  “What are their values?”  “What motivates them?”  What is it that they need to be successful?”  As a leader, you too must not immediately judge and hold so tightly to those attitudes.  Otherwise, you might create an undesired self-fulfilling prophecy.  Sometimes it better to be wrong than right.  Those you have judged – revisit your feelings about them.  You might find a new ally.

1. Close your eyes
2. Breathe
3. Empty your mind
4. As thoughts come in, acknowledge and whisk them away
5. Focus on your breathing
6. Think about the affirmation:

"I will give others a second chance."

 

 

 

Cut Stress By Giving Laughter

Laughter is an instant vacation. ~ Milton Berle ~

Research is beginning to show that laughing is a full-cortex experience.  This makes sense considering the positive physical and mental effects laughter can have on people.  Laughing can be an instant stress reliever.  If you are having a hard time getting motivated, moving on from a problem or concentrating on a challenge, stress could be one of the reasons since it takes up so much space in the "thinking" areas of the brain.  As a leader, you need to be able to help others think better, so find a way to cut stress. You almost always add stress by the shear nature of being the leader. When you give the gift of laughter, you give others the chance to have a little break from stress.

1. Close your eyes
2. Breathe
3. Empty your mind
4. As thoughts come in, acknowledge and whisk them away
5. Focus on your breathing
6. Think about the affirmation:

"I will find time add laughter to the day."